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'Love is not tourism' — coronavirus travel bans keep loved ones apart for months
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'Love is not tourism' — coronavirus travel bans keep loved ones apart for months

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Jocelyn Herstein & Ben Ra

Jocelyn Herstein, of Lincoln, and Ben Ra, a German native who lives in Switzerland, are engaged, but have not seen each other for months after Herstein's plans to move to Switzerland this summer were halted by travel bans because of the pandemic. 

For Jocelyn Herstein, the world seemed a lot smaller when she could hop on a plane and be anywhere or with anyone in less than 24 hours.

That world has gotten quite a bit bigger over the past several months, with many countries closing airports and borders with little advance notice and airlines drastically reducing the number of flights because of the coronavirus pandemic.

Those changes have left people such as Herstein, who lives in Lincoln but has a German fiance living in Switzerland, bearing the brunt of the travel restrictions.

"There are women who are pregnant or about to give birth, and their significant other can't be there for the birth of their child," Herstein said. "People can travel for vacation, but can't be reunited with their loved ones."

The United States has been under the most extreme travel advisory, Level 4, advising people to avoid international travel because of COVID-19 since March 31.

"If you choose to remain overseas, you should be prepared to remain where you are for the foreseeable future," the U.S. Department of State said in its travel advisory.

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But dozens of other countries have imposed their own travel advisories or bans to keep Americans outside their borders, as the U.S. has continued to have the highest COVID-19 caseload and death toll in the world. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, there were more than 4.5 million cases and nearly 154,000 deaths in the U.S. as of Friday.

Herstein is just one of thousands across the U.S. confronting a forced separation from a loved one. 

Parents are separated from their children. Wedding plans have been canceled. People get sick without their loved ones nearby for support.

The Facebook groups "Couples Separated by Travel Bans" and "Love is Not Tourism" have 17,000 members and continue to grow. 

Herstein met Ben Ra in her graduate program at the University of Nebraska at Omaha in 2014, and they've dated long-distance since 2015. 

She planned to move to Switzerland this summer before travel bans were put in place. Herstein is now in the process of applying for a family reunification visa to make her way to Switzerland as soon as possible. 

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"The problem with the travel ban is that there is a line drawn in the sand for married couples," Herstein said. "It's been pretty amazing to see how many couples are in the same situation."

Many are finding ways to work around the ban by creating crafty travel plans, either flying into a country that has no ban on American travelers and transferring to another country, or both parties meet in a third country to get married.

In Omaha, Megan Richter has been weighing all options trying to get to her fiance, Paul McMillan, in Glasgow, Scotland. 

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"We have gone through levels of acceptance," she said. "We talked about both flying to other countries to meet and get married. We are both aware that the pandemic is very serious, but I just think that it comes down to a stamp on a piece of paper, which isn't always fair."

Richter and McMillan met at a summer camp in Boone, Iowa, about eight years ago, but so far have been unable to obtain visas that would allow them to live together in either the U.S. or Scotland.

Megan Richter & Paul McMillan

Megan Richter, of Omaha, and Paul McMillan, of Scotland, were forced to postpone their wedding plans because of COVID-19 travel restrictions. 

A few countries, including Denmark, started allowing people into the country if they can prove their relationship was in existence before the pandemic. Many are hopeful that other countries will follow suit. 

"Some days, you get good news; some days, you get bad news," Richter said. "I worry if he or I get sick, we can't even see each other."

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Summer news intern Sofia Saric is a Los Angeles native studying journalism at Boston University and has previously written stories for the Boston Globe, the Brookline TAB, the Daily Free Press and Spindle.

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